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Today, Ian was looking at a picture on the bulletin board across from his bed.

“I bet you miss your cousins,” my mom asked him, “do you want to see Sarah and Jesi again?”

He responded in the best way he knows how: a long, deliberate blink.

Please pray that Ian will be able to laugh with his cousins soon. Please pray that he’ll be able to communicate with us more effectively.

We know you’re praying hard for Ian and the rest of us, and we didn’t do anything to deserve your prayers. Thanks again!

-Ben

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Be Expectant

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I was reading today’s entry from Spurgeon’s Faith’s Checkbook. He begins with explaining that God’s prophet, Isaiah, meant it for the Israelites in their war with Cyrus but then, only as he can, extends the application, as it should be, to all of His children because He never changes.

“I will go before thee, and make the crooked places straight: I will break in pieces the gates of brass, and cut in sunder the bars of iron.” (Isaiah 45:2)

“This was for Cyrus; but it is evermore the heritage of all the Lord’s own spiritual servants. Only let us go forward by faith, and our way will be cleared for us. Crooks and turns of human craft and satanic subtlety shall be straightened for us; we shall not need to track their devious windings. The gates of brass shall be broken, and the iron bars which fastened them shall be cut asunder. We shall not need the battering ram nor the crowbar: the Lord Himself will do the impossible for us, and the unexpected shall be a fact.

Let us not sit down in coward fear. Let us press onward in the path of duty, for the Lord hath said it: “I will go before thee.” Ours not to reason why; ours but to dare and dash forward. It is the Lord’s work, and He will enable us to do it: all impediments must yield before Him. Hath He not said, “I will break in pieces the gates of brass”! What can hinder His purpose or balk His decrees? Those who serve God have infinite resources. The way is clear to faith though barred to human strength. When Jehovah says, “I will,” as He does twice in this promise, we dare not doubt.”

The Murphy’s are doing their work, and it is hard. Our work or “war”, so to speak, it to pray for Ian. What an encouragement God gives us from His word. My favorite line of the entry is, “We shall not need the battering ram nor the crowbar: the Lord Himself will do the impossible for us and the unexpected shall be a fact.”

Human might, nor skill, nor reasoning could not save Ian’s life, but God did. Human strength did not heal the fractured vertebrae in his neck, but God did. Human skill did not put together the ligaments in his knee, but God did. The unexpected became fact for us.

Let’s continue to pray to the One, who’s purposes cannot, will not be hindered and expect the impossible from Him for Ian. No amount of human strength or reasoning can bring him back to us, but, as Spurgeon confirms what the Word of God says, “Those who serve God have infinite resources” because He is infinite, He loves His people and He answers our prayers. And he loves Ian. Let’s remember that, “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16) Let’s continue to pray, with hearts filled with faith and confidence in the One who crushed His own Son in order to make us His children so that we could come, boldly, before His throne and ask our Father that He would restore Ian to His family and Larissa better than he left us.

Kristi A.

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“Don’t leave me as the older brother, Ian,” I remember saying a few days after his accident, when he was dying and I was preparing to say my last goodbye. We were in the intensive care unit in a Pittsburgh hospital, and I thought I was seeing my brother for the last time.

Today, I was thinking about that conversation. Althought I hoped and prayed he would live, I couldn’t expect him to. My family and I were ready to accept that Ian’s time on earth was through and that we would see him again in heaven.
“I want to understand God’s providence, but I can’t,” a friend told me today. Like him, I don’t understand why God works how he does, but I realize that He is always wise and loves us through Christ. If he had chosen to take Ian then, we could still be sure of his loving control. This same truth about God is as true now as it was in the ICU: God loves those who follow him and he is working everything for their good.
Some of the time, we’re able to communicate with Ian through asking him questions to which he’ll respond “yes” with a long blink. The other night, Ian responded to one of my questions with a deliberate headshake; a definite “no” answer. Pray that God will continue healing Ian, specifically that we’ll be able to communicate with each other more often and more effectively.

Thanks!

-Ben

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Driving in the fog

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If you’ve ever driven the mountain highways between Indiana and Altoona, you know that at times they can be pretty foggy making it very difficult to drive. Recently, I was remembering a time when I had to drive that stretch in the fog and how challenging it was. I had to focus on the lines in the road and on the tail lights ahead of me to keep my bearings. I knew that if I drifted one way I could collide with another car ahead or behind me. Drifting the other way was just as treacherous. I had to slow down and focus hard on those lines to keep on track. I also had to focus on the tail lights ahead of me to gauge my speed and to anticipate which way the road would turn next.

That story came back to me as I thought about how challenging this situation is with Ian. It’s treacherous to drift off our course and acknowledge fearful thoughts. If I give in, I’ll be in trouble. It’s also tempting to embrace and act on selfish, complaining thoughts, but that’s just as treacherous. I have to focus hard on the lines provided in Scripture, the incredible promises and truths of Scripture. God is faithful and powerful and kind and good and very much involved. His favor is very much on our lives, though I don’t always see it clearly. I have to stay focused on the One who leads us just ahead trusting that He knows where He’s taking us. The Lord has been helping us.

Ian continues to be very alert, though he still can’t communicate with us. He moves around a lot, now, stretching and shifting. None of these things were happening in the last three weeks he was in the hospital. I don’t know where we’re going with Ian, but I trust the Lord is doing something.

Thank you for praying for Ian…we want him to talk to us.

Steve

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First Date

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Ian and I had our first date tonight in seven months. I remember that the last one we went on was to Cozumel, a Mexican restaurant, two days before the accident. I was looking forward to it all day and throughout the day when Mary asked Ian about it, he communicated that he remembered too that we had a date planned. We drove around town and went to some of the places that we used to go to. Steve came to our rescue after a slight mishap with Ian’s head rest falling off but after that we were good. Ian was awake the whole time just looking out the window. We drove around IUP and to my old apartment building. I tried to find the Murphy’s old house on Grandview Ave and then we went to St. Bernard’s church, which is up on a big hill and has a great view of town. We stopped by Jen and Stephen’s and the four of us hung out in the van for awhile. It was nice to just do normal things with Ian, even if we have to do them a little bit differently and it was nice to just have a special time with him like our dates before.

“As to myself, if I had been told what I was to learn through these protracted sufferings, I am afraid I should have shrunk back in terror and so have lost all the sweet lessons God propsed to teach me. As it is, he has led me on, step by step, answering my prayers in his own way and I cannot bear to have a single human being doubt that it has been a perfect way. I love and adore it just as it is.”
-Elizabeth Prentiss

Thank you for praying for Ian. Please pray that God restores him completely and that on our next date, he’ll be the one driving:)

Larissa

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Ian continues to spend way more time awake now that he’s home than he did in the hospital. He had a good session with speech today. Amanda and Heather, two women from our church who are very, very graciously working with Ian, held up two pieces of paper. One said “yes” and one said “no.” At this point, they just asked Ian to point one of the pieces, and he did. They are working on him pointing to the word that he wants to use to answer a question, but the fact that he can just point at the paper is great. Tonight I asked him to hold a book for me while I grabbed something else and right away he put his hand out to hold the book.

I recently started a part-time job and if anything, it has made me appreciate even more the fact that Ian is home. It is such a blessing to see him first thing in the morning and have devotional time with him and then see him as soon as I get home. I’ve been reading through Genesis with Ian and while I already can’t remember all of the stories that I’ve read throughout the chapters, God’s faithfulness is displayed to me every day that I read. He was faithful to men like Abraham and Isaac, however many years ago that was. He gave them many promises about their offspring or about the land that would be theirs, and he fulfilled all of those promises, many in their lifetimes. God has promised that He will deliver us (Psalm 34:17) and that He will always be with us (Joshua 1:9). I’m praying that Ian sees deliverance from this in his lifetime.

Keep clinging to the cross, Ian. God will deliver you.

Larissa

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Starting over

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I remember when Ian was a very young boy how everything he did was new and exciting for us. I remember the video of him banging a tamborine against his leg and how cute that was. I remember some of the funny things he said. I also remember when he would “draw” scribbles, and we would praise his attempts.
It seems we’re starting over, but this time it’s bittersweet. Today, for example, when a friend put a pen in his hand (with some coaching) he used it to make marks on a page. He also gave one of our attendant care workers, Bill, a clear shaking of his head to indicate he didn’t want drops of water put in his mouth. Ian also shook Bill’s hand tonight. These are small things, but we take some comfort in hearing these reports.
We keep encouraging Ian to use his voice, so he can tell us when he’s in pain or when he needs something. Please keep praying that he would use his voice.
Thank you for praying.

Steve

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Keep Praying

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“I never would have been able to comfort anguished seekers if I myself had not been kept waiting for mercy. I have always felt grateful for distress because of the results afterward. Many saints whose experiences are published could never have written those books if they had not waited hungry and thirsty and full of soul sorrow. The spade of agony digs deep trenches to hold the water of life. If the ships of prayer do not speedily return, it is because they are heavily loaded with blessings. When prayer is not immediately answered, it will be all the sweeter when the answer arrives. Prayer, like fruit, is ripened by hanging longer on the tree. If you knock with a heavy heart, you will soon sing with the joy of the Spirit. Therefore, do no be discouraged because the door is still closed.”

-Charles Spurgeon

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Thin ice

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When I was a little kid growing up in Minnesota (the land of 10,000 lakes), we would regularly hear tragic stories about people falling through the ice into the frigid water. In my little mind, what was most perplexing to me was when pickup trucks or cars would fall through the ice as their owners tried to cross on the ice. I would think, “why would they do something so ridiculous? Don’t they realize that something that heavy could fall through the ice?”
I’ve become so much more aware through this experience with Ian that life is as fragile as that thin ice. People go on with their lives as if their safety and their lives were a sure thing. Activity and schedules and the demands of life drive people on across the ice, and they don’t stop to consider what might happen if the ice breaks. Then, someone does fall through – someone close dies or a car wrecks and lives are torn apart or cancer strikes. I can’t imagine not knowing our kind and merciful Savior. I can’t imagine not knowing that He died to take my sin. I can’t imagine not knowing that because of that death my circumstances are ruled by God for good. I can’t imagine not being assured of heaven. This experience is painful enough; I can’t imagine not having that confidence in the middle of the pain.
Sometimes I wish that I could appeal to the people passing by us to seriously consider what they’re doing. I want to ask them, “what will happen if you fall through the ice as we have? Will you have the assurance that God is weaving all of your circumstances together for good? Do you have the confidence that when you die you will be in heaven?”
Steve
p.s. Ian continues to make very slow progress, and we’re adjusting to the new normal. We are very grateful to have him home with us. Please continue to pray for paid staff for overnight and weekends. Pray that he would talk to us. Thank you.

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Psalm 119:154

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“…But you are near, O LORD, and all your commandments are true.“

“My brother is in trouble, but you are near, God, and you have not forsaken him. It doesn’t seem like this is a good thing, Father, but all of you commandents are true, and you have promised that you love us and want nothing but what is good for us. Thank you, Jesus, that have proven your love by offering yourself up for our punishment. Thank you that we can know you are near. Amen.”

Ian seems to be making a little bit of progress since he’s been home. I’m sure the familar surroundings are helping.

Please keep praying that this would help us all (especially Ian) know God and his joy better. And pray that Ian would be healed.

-Ben

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